"Allow your Body’s wisdom to take center stage in your dance of life."


The easy answer to clear up any confusion about Body Confidence and what it is:

Find a baby and observe his or her behavior.

Well-being expresses itself when the baby is awake, asleep, or anywhere in between. Baby’s body and baby are in constant communication with each other. When baby’s body experiences hunger, pain, fear, anxiety, tiredness, thirst or any category of discomfort, baby’s body reacts with cries in expectation that the caretakers will supply what she needs to fulfill the need or want. After the need is satisfied, the baby returns to well-being.


And there is no pause, no space between the stimulus of discomfort and the outcry indicating it. Baby doesn’t bother with appropriate expectations or behavior; baby is oblivious to others’ expectations for her; and lastly, baby is focused on getting her needs met, the sooner the better for all those in her environment.

Ok, that behavior is tyrannical, and goes way beyond body confidence.

But it’s a start.

As an adult, body confidence takes a step back. Our body knows what she needs, and instead of relying on her caretakers, she has transitioned to depending on you, her BFF to fulfill those needs, wants, desires.

Your body was born with body confidence, and therefore so were you. As you matured you have lost contact with your body and have ceased to listen to her for guidance.

To get in touch with your birthright, the body confidence you were born with, you need to get back in touch with your body. It’s never too late to listen to your body.

Contact Coach Stephanie to learn more about it.

All babies are born with body confidence, because they communicate to their significant others all they need, want, desire to feel good about themselves.


Ok, it’s not Steve Harvey, but in my recent survey, I sent out to a list of women who are not my “peeps” (yet), I was shocked to discover 100% of them had never experienced Body Confidence, and were not clear what the term means even though they were familiar with it from the media.

Aside from the fact they were not sure of the specific meaning of the term or how it would apply to them, they were “jealous” of those who had it and wanted it for themselves…just didn’t know how to get it.

Granted the check-in was designed for answers from impulse response, because those are usually truthful. If you want more info, please click the link above and see for yourself.

In the meantime, take my word for it that from the hundreds, maybe thousands of women who received the emails, their responses indicated a real need to learn more about body confidence and how to re-awaken it in themselves.

So, as the founder of the Body Knowledge System®, the sustainable solution to body issues for women of all ages, I recognize the challenge before me: to educate women about their birthright: Body Confidence!

Thanks for paying attention, and there’s more to come


I have noticed that the average American woman is a size 16-18 and you may have experienced the media trying to convince you otherwise. If you look around at magazines and billboards, you’d assume the average woman in America is a size 2.

For decades women sizes 16 and up have been forced to shop different styles, in a different section of the store. Maybe you’ve felt that division. Whether you’ve been less than appreciative of being labeled as “plus size” or you’ve found yourself relieved that you didn’t have to shop the plus section, you’ve experienced an unhealthy divide based on your size as a woman.


Imagine With Me…


Can you imagine if, in the grocery store, certain foods were manufactured and sold for some customers, but not for others? That would be ridiculous! Thankfully, things are changing and clothing stores are beginning to agree.

For example, “It has just been reported that Kmart will label their signs saying plus size section to the “Fabulously Sized” section. Even better, they’re now offering their regular sized clothes in an extended range, to get rid of the separate sections all together.

Kelly Cook, Kmart’s chief marketing director told newscasters, “Fashion is ageless, shapeless and weightless. We want to be inclusive and empower women to find apparel that makes them look and feel good, and be whoever they want to be.”



An inside Tip


Isn’t it interesting to notice the impact that words have on how we feel about ourselves and our bodies?

Say out-loud ‘plus size’ or visualize the sign in a store and THEN say or visualize ‘fabulously sizes’.

A  big, big difference. Yes?

Words create thoughts which create beliefs that can empower you with better body confidence or bring into negative places.


By the way:


For more interesting conversations and tips to enhance your body confidence, check out some of my radio episodes. My partner in crime is Debi Talbert where we bring in my body Knowledge System ® principles sprinkled with Law of Attraction principles.

The conversations are short and sweet to get you into the habit of enjoying your body’s know-how.

You are probably ready to learn and discover more body confidence techniques.

Slowly, our world is becoming more accepting of real women and their various shapes and sizes. What about your world? Is your mind and heart a safe place for you? Learn to eliminate judgements, limitations and hurtful messages which could be are holding you back?

Bravo! To all of us taking the lead with this body confidence movement



The term “plus” when applied to clothing sizes is a pejorative. I love that word, pejorative, because it sounds exactly what it means: defamatory, discriminatory, judgmental and altogether nasty-negative!

When manufacturers determine their product sizes, there is no standard measurement. (Please see articles on the origins of sizes in women’s clothing on this website.)

As of today, some designers consider women sizes 12 and above as “plus” sizes, others assign “plus” to above 16. Today the average size sold to American women is a 16; and it hardly qualifies those women as outside the norm, as they are the norm!

Aside from celebrated individuals, (Ashley Graham, Melissa McCartney, Amy Schumer, among others) who have confidently pushed for body acceptance, the media is getting on board by acknowledging “one size fails to fit all!” Project Runway became inclusive this season with the inclusion of larger models and designers to clothe them.

Last week, KMART announced the re-naming of plus to fabulously sized clothing, and eliminating the separation (some would say isolation) of that category from the rest of the department.

Along with Lane Bryant’s new branding celebrating “curvy” for their clothing lines, it looks like we are WINNING! Finally, through individual efforts at acceptance of the current reality of women’s healthy bodies, the social institutions have received the message and are joining the rest of us in respecting our individuality.

Advertising, social media, and commercial markets are broadening their message to accept all of us as equals.

Keep this positive momentum going: Join the Body Confidence Movement!

Call Coach Stephanie to find out how!


Although she lost her lawsuit against a Silicon Valley venture capital firm in 2015, Ellen K. Pao came back strong to rid all workplaces of discrimination and sexual harassment. Hailed by Time Magazine as the “Face of Change” her message overcame negative assaults and retaliation for her courage and confidence in challenging the status quo in Silicon Valley and beyond.

As CEO of Reddit, Ms. Pao took on the negative trolling present in Social Media. Her company is on alert for personal attacks on individuals based on gender, sexual orientation, religion, or body image. The result of all of her activism is the recent publication of her personal and professional story, “Reset” My Fight for Inclusion and Lasting Change.”

What does that mean for the rest of us?

Most of us lack her education, expertise, and yes, intelligence to create her accomplishments, but ALL of us have her capacity for courage and the confidence it takes to express it personally and professionally.

All it takes is one of us to inspire all of us!

Thank you, Ellen K Pao!

Now it’s our turn.

What can you do to take your first step to Body Confidence today?

Call Coach Stephanie.


A recent study by Michigan State University of 271,000 people of various ages found that investing in your friendships pays large dividends in your health, wellbeing, and long-term future.

Those of us who practice the Body Knowledge System® understand the benefit of one very special buddy, our body.

She knows us better than anyone else on the planet, including our spouse, mother, father, twin sister, brother or son or daughter. She’s been with us since our first breath and will be with us until our last breath. She supports us, not only physically, but emotionally and psychologically. And best of all, she’s available to us 24/7/365.

Now that’s a BFF!

So, when was the last time you acknowledged her as your BFF? If the answer is “never”, it’s not too late to create that relationship.

Actually, it’s never too late.

But why wait? When the sooner you become reacquainted, the sooner you’ll enjoy the benefits of the relationship!

Contact Coach Stephanie to take your first step to becoming the BFF to your body!

Project Runway’s New Look: Real Bodies, Real Women, and Real Life


Hi, it’s Body Confidence Coach Stephanie here!

I’m in the business of helping women love their bodies. When Project Runway recently announced they’d have models size 0-22 walking their runway this season, I considered it a huge media win!

Finally, this popular show recognized that a runway full of impossibly thin models wasn’t healthy. As Heidi Klum said on this season’s first episode, a truly gifted designer must be able to dress women as they appear in the real world: a diverse range of shapes and sizes.


You as a Runway Model


Can you imagine what it would have been like to work as a runway model on previous seasons?

My guess is…you can.

Maybe your paycheck doesn’t depend on your pant size, but does your sense of self-worth? Your confidence level when you walk into a room and Your ability to feel worthy in relationships?


How I Can Help

If you identified with any of the above, The Body Knowledge System® is for you.

I use my Body Knowledge methodology to help you stop resisting you own Self Confidence and body worthiness.

One of my favorite sections of the Body Knowledge System® Playbook talks about your Body’s voice. As you have internalized the pressure to look a certain way, you’ve become estranged to your own body’s voice and begun to listen to the voice of the media, your peers and other outside pressures.

Maybe you’ve tried to improve your body image before, with little success. That’s because you haven’t truly joined forces with your body.


Try this Simple Practice


You might be able to say, “I am alive” while you’re sitting down, but when you say those same words as you move from sitting to standing, they feel more powerful, don’t they? That’s because you joined forces with your body!

The Body Knowledge System® will teach you to live your life with that same energy. You’ll no longer dictate over your body, you’ll learn to dance with her. This dance will allow you to pursue your life’s passions with joy.

What Are You Waiting For!?!

Project Runway has recognized that it’s time for models to listen to their own voices, not the voice of the industry.

Size 12, 14, 16, 18, 20 and 22 models will have the body confidence necessary to successfully model in front of a nationally televised audience.

Now, it’s your turn. Whatever size or shape you are, why not take advantage of my simple, sustainable tools and techniques.

Practicing the Body Knowledge System® will release your inner body confidence and rock your life like it’s your very own runway.

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Better yet, contact me- Coach Stephanie, to start your strut down the runway of your life!


We discussed diet fads last time, now let’s look at exercise trends, er fads.

The 60 second promise sure looks good in the Tweet, but if it were THAT easy, I’d do it, too. What the article on HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) goes on to say is 60  seconds refers to a single interval in a total of twenty 60 second segments.

In other words, twenty minutes total of alternating between short high intensity exercises for 60 seconds, followed by a three minutes of lesser intensity exercises. And when they say “intense” they mean vigorous efforts driving your heart rate up to 80 to 95 percent of capacity.

As in alternating fasting diet programs, the AMA does not recommend daily HIIT workouts, rather do your HIITs three days a week, allowing 42 to 78 hours between them. Whether this will work for you, may depend on your Style profile that you discovered in Coach Stephanie’s popular teleclass “Resist Exercise, Want to Know Why?”

If you missed it, contact Coach Stephanie for more information


How to Treat Your Body as a Person,
not an Object.

All media objectifies the people in it. They create an image designed to promote their message, sell their product, and invite comparison between their ideal presentation and your less-than-perfect reality.

It’s that comparison that creates the painful feelings within you by intimidation.

I encourage you to apply this specific Body Knowledge System® technique that when you are confronted by a beautiful, fit, young, model on screen, on the page, or on the billboard, you know how to give yourself Body Confidence. It’s easy to express yourself to another person if/when you have a reaction to an image. When that person is your BFF, as your body will be after you understand and practice the Body Knowledge System®, your potentially negative reaction to the object before your eyes will automatically become a positive appreciation of her personal assets.


Objective Image vs. Living Breathing Beautiful Body


Media imagery is a two dimensional, impersonal, cold, representation of a multi-dimensional, personal, warm, real human being. There is no reason to compare a flat copy to an energetic being, as there can be no comparison!

Consider this: there is energy present when you and your body have a positive, objective reaction to the image you observe, notice.

Clearly, if the image attracted your notice, there is something positive associated with it: beauty, health, life style. That’s why you and your body “Allow” it into your consciousness.


Prior to sliding into the negativity of comparison, hit the “STOP!” button.
Check in with your body.



Taking notice of the image allows you and your body to create a positive reaction, and therefore attract what you appreciate about it, or something better, into your life.

Wouldn’t it be nice and exciting to make this body knowledge a part of your daily practices?

A Body Confidence Coaching partnership with me is something to consider

**Practicing this Body Knowledge System® creates a space for you to practice Body Confidence. Let me know.

Bonus: Listen to radio shows I have created with Debi Talbert that gives different perspectives of body confidence that are honest and filled with ways of encouraging yourself to live your healthy lifestyle with humor and sustainability.


SIAs pre-teens, we sought the busty look popular in Sports Illustrated’s Annual Swimsuit Issue in February every year. For some of us those C, D, DD cups came true with puberty, breast feeding, or breast augmentation. With the flesh filling out our bras, came strap pressure by on our shoulders from the extra weight filling our encompassing cups.

According to a 2016 study published by Surgical Technology International, add a cup size and you’re adding 10 pounds of pressure on your upper back and neck. Focus all that weight into two skinny strands of cloth, and the painful results on your neck, shoulders and spine speak for themselves.

Ashley Graham posted on her Instagram a bikini hack by body-positive author, Allison Kimmey who created an attractive crisscross pattern over the shoulder blades to distribute the weight more evenly. Ashley posted variations (racer back, or over the shoulder) that anyone with halter strap neck pain can try.

For the rest of us who no longer find bikinis appropriate for whatever reason, there are many more bathing suit options available to provide the service we want from a garment to wear on the beach, on a boat, or in the water this summer.

The bathing suit is not the issue, as the amount of cover provided varies between a bikini and a burka. It’s not about our appearance, it’s about our comfort; physical, social, psychological. And that is a result of the conversation you have with your body when deciding what to wear this summer or any season of the year.

The conversation you have with your body provides you the confidence you want to enjoy all the fun available this summer.

Don’t know how to talk to her? Call Coach Stephanie today!

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