BodyAwe

"Be yourself with your body; remember your body is your personal barometer."

Have you noticed how much “body shaming” is happening in our culture lately?

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It is not OK to Body Shame!

Social Media promotes Body Bullying!

To stop Body Shaming…Begin with your body!

While the rise of social media has had damaging effects, it has also empowered many women (and men!) to stand up against the bullies.

Alone, we are a single voice of protest.

Together, we are a chorus of positive energy pushing back against the attempted tyranny of the body bullies!

Positive Energy

So, what are the next steps?

As the founder of the Body Knowledge System®, I’m here to help restore our integrity as we move from body shame to body awe*!  My website guides women who want to progress from Body Shame to Body Awe through the successful application of my body knowledge system.

*Body Awe means respect filled with wonder when considering our body.

“AWESOME”  Current culture uses “awesome” to describe the very best of the best.  Notice the “we” in that word.

And even more practically . . . what are the practices you can incorporate into your everyday life to make this a reality?

Learn how Body Shaming can be erased forever with the Body Knowledge System® with Coach Stephanie Wood, PCC.

Contact me for a FREE CONSULTATION!

Body Shame → Body Acceptance → Body Confidence →

Body Awe!

How to Treat Your Body as a Person,
not an Object.

All media objectifies the people in it. They create an image designed to promote their message, sell their product, and invite comparison between their ideal presentation and your less-than-perfect reality.

It’s that comparison that creates the painful feelings within you by intimidation.

I encourage you to apply this specific Body Knowledge System® technique that when you are confronted by a beautiful, fit, young, model on screen, on the page, or on the billboard, you know how to give yourself Body Confidence. It’s easy to express yourself to another person if/when you have a reaction to an image. When that person is your BFF, as your body will be after you understand and practice the Body Knowledge System®, your potentially negative reaction to the object before your eyes will automatically become a positive appreciation of her personal assets.

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Objective Image vs. Living Breathing Beautiful Body

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Media imagery is a two dimensional, impersonal, cold, representation of a multi-dimensional, personal, warm, real human being. There is no reason to compare a flat copy to an energetic being, as there can be no comparison!

Consider this: there is energy present when you and your body have a positive, objective reaction to the image you observe, notice.

Clearly, if the image attracted your notice, there is something positive associated with it: beauty, health, life style. That’s why you and your body “Allow” it into your consciousness.

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Prior to sliding into the negativity of comparison, hit the “STOP!” button.
Check in with your body.

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Taking notice of the image allows you and your body to create a positive reaction, and therefore attract what you appreciate about it, or something better, into your life.

Wouldn’t it be nice and exciting to make this body knowledge a part of your daily practices?

A Body Confidence Coaching partnership with me is something to consider

**Practicing this Body Knowledge System® creates a space for you to practice Body Confidence. Let me know.

Bonus: Listen to radio shows I have created with Debi Talbert that gives different perspectives of body confidence that are honest and filled with ways of encouraging yourself to live your healthy lifestyle with humor and sustainability.

 

How do you show up in your life?

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Let me explain what I mean.

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Weight Watchers Program

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Have you seen the newest Weight Watchers commercial?

In it, Oprah interviews a woman who has recently lost weight using the Weight Watchers program. Now that the woman has finally achieved thinness, Oprah asks, “How do you show up in your life?”

To be honest, I don’t even remember the woman’s answer, because I got so caught up in the question.

This is where I BECAME FRUSTRATED

Why do we wait to ask someone how they show up in their life now that the weight is gone? And what happens if she stops Weight Watchers and gains the weight back? Is she suddenly no longer allowed to show up the way she had been before?

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Showing Up In Life, Regardless Of Your Weight

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The question “How do you show up in your life?” should not be attached to weight, it should he attached to our relationship with our bodies.

When we aren’t allowed to show up until we’re a certain weight, life becomes all about our size. When we recognize that we show up better when we treat our bodies with love, respect, and kindness, we set ourselves up for inner growth and outer health.

Want to practice how to use Body Knowledge with my system that gets you into a relationship with your body wherever she is at-together.

Gift: Know your Body Knowledge System® Essence of practicing a close relationship between you and your body by downloading this part of my playbook to get you practicing. Pages 71 to end of 74 please

When you have Body Knowledge you practice honoring your body where she is now and what you want for each other in the long run.

I encourage you to join me on this journey of practicing Body confidence and use this one tool now and see what happens☺

Get started here

 

 

How’s your summer going? For many of us, summer vacation is right around the corner.  And, unfortunately or fortunately some changes often comes with the territory.

You know what I’m talking about, right?

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The Vacation Dilemma

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The ultimate vacation dilemma may be temptations and schedule changes that might get you off with your relationship between your body’s wants and needs and you.

Do I eat everything and then feel gross and guilty, or do I stick to the nutritional values me and my body have created.

From cold beers on the beach, to platters of fried fish and tartar sauce, to quaint little ice cream shops on the walk home from dinner, there are countless opportunities on vacation to wreak havoc between you and your body’s intentions for each other.

It might feel like there’s no way out, but there is.

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The“Way Out”

I’m proposing a new approach to food while in different environments such as a vacation. One that allows you to enjoy vacation without losing control or depriving yourself of food and fun. My Body Knowledge System® Styles in my Playbook will help you get back in tune with your body rather than relying on your mind to know what she needs.Once you’ve rediscovered the close partnership with your body you can trust your body to tell you what she wants and needs in any environment where changes influence your healthy choices.

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Here are some choices on how to begin:

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My latest free eBook will help you take the first step towards that.

Bonus: Know your Body Knowledge System® Environmental Style by downloading this part of my playbook to get you practicing being aware of how your environment effects your eating habits and how you can match your style with your environment so that you and your body are in concert .

When you have Body Knowledge, you can eat on vacation just like you eat year round, without fear of overdoing it.

I encourage you to join me on this journey to freedom and enjoy this summer’s vacation without food-related stress!

Get started here

 

The other night, my husband and I made a delicious dinner – Spaghetti Bolognese with a salad. We ate and we enjoyed and I was full.  Funny thing is, I was hungry again two hours later.

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I asked myself, “Should I be hungry after eating such a luscious balanced meal?”

I even went so far as to worry that eating something in addition to my dinner would make me gain weight.

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My Body Knowledge wisdom between you and your body eating in a conversation:

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Thankfully, after a few minutes I was able to overcome how my mind thought my body “should” feel and just pay attention to what me and my body needed.

Note: This article will not be getting into balance of carbs and protein for your body or emotional eating loopholes

Know your Body Knowledge System® Eating Style by downloading this part of my playbook to get you practicing what eating looks like between you and your body in partnership

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I grabbed some lemon yogurt and sat down to watch a show with my husband. When I felt satisfied again, I put the yogurt away.

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My coaching Message to you is this:

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There are all kinds of “shoulds” our culture wants us to believe about our bodies.

From what time of day we should be hungry to what kind of workouts we should be doing, we are faced with constant pressure about how we should treat our bodies if we want to look a certain way.

The truth is, no one knows what your body needs as well you and your body does! Tap into the fountain of health knowledge inside you and discover true body confidence for good.

My latest free eBook will help you take the first step towards that.

Bonus: Know your Body Knowledge System® Eating Style by downloading this part of my playbook to get you practicing what eating looks like between you and your body in partnership.

Do you ever ask yourself….

‘How can I lose weight and still feel comfortable in my body as we are in the process of transforming each other?’

Listen

The other day I was talking with a friend. She mentioned a time in her life when she weighed about 20 pounds more than she ever had.

My immediate thoughts:

I was waiting to hear her shame her own body with phrases like,

  • “I look so disgusting.”
  • “I hate myself in the mirror.”
  • “I just want to look skinny again.”

But here’s what surprised me!

She talked about her body with respect and love. She said she didn’t feel as healthy or strong with the extra weight. She said she stopped caring for her body the way she had before.

In other words, this friend was listening to her body rather than judging her.

This is the core of the Body Knowledge System®. She gets it and practices it. Yeah!

This is the process I want for those of you who are listening and want to know more.

Listen

So, instead of setting out to lose weight and get thin again, she set out to love her body by listening to what she needed. And the result was feeling comfortable with the weight her body and she wanted. I am so excited for my friend!

Side note:

She said the results were not overnight, but she believes that by reconnecting with her body and embracing her Body Knowledge System® Style she redefined her relationship with her body to create the new process of eating to allow each other (her and her body) to breathe and find a common ground of acceptance.

During this process of implementing and acknowledging her Body Knowledge System® Style she simply spoke of how amazing she feels! And she also likes how she looks.

And by knowing her Body knowledge System® Style the weight loss was easier and looking and feeling with her body had renewed energy and acceptance.

Check out the link above for the Body Knowledge System ® Style guide around Eating and You.

A recent study from Harvard University revealed the one word that is used in an online dating profile that is a turn-off to potential dates, male or female is….wait for it:

“Happy!”

HUH?

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This contradicts common sense, lyracists, and the law of attraction.

“Everybody loves a lover,” right?

Not so, say the online social scholars at Harvard University. When you post the word “Happy” as part of your profile, expect a pass from those who may like your face, your background, your interests, you!

At the heart of Body Confidence is happiness, that feeling of contentment with yourself as expressed in your posture, movement, and speech is attractive to others. At least to others you hope to impress, or attract.

The Law of Attraction is based on raising your vibration so that you will attract what you want, (happiness), not what you don’t want, (loneliness). Raising your personal vibration means being “happy”, or at least acting as if you are happy.

The bottom line is always who do you want to spend time with? A positive, happy person or a Debbie Downer!

Body Confidence is always positive, so never be afraid to say so—just don’t use the word “happy” when registering your online dating profile. ;)

over idulgenceThis week I want to talk about avoiding cycles of over and/or under indulgence.

You’ll learn the value of listening to your body and giving her what she wants and needs!

Overindulgence

I used to drink frozen coffee drinks all the time. I’m not talking about an iced coffee; I’m talking about the tall plastic cup with a dome-shaped lid filled with a caffeinated milkshake and whipped cream.

You’ve probably had one, right? If you have, you know they’re delicious.

Whenever I passed a Starbucks I would stop and get one and I would drink the whole thing. I never checked in with my body to see if I really wanted one or not. I just thought, “I love Frappuccino’s so I’m going to get one.”

This wasn’t just my approach to coffee. It was my approach to food in general. Needless to say, one day I realized I was getting heavier than I wanted to be.

Under Indulgence

So, I swung in the opposite direction. I began to restrict my calorie intake and that meant no more frozen coffee drinks.

Soon, I became so deprived of food that I started to be obsessed with it.

The Frappuccino’s are a great example of this. I forbid myself to drink them except on rare occasions.

When I did allow myself one, it was all I thought about. I would limit my food intake that day to give me room for the extra calories that would permit me to indulge with the coffee drink all day.

Body Balance

Fast forward a few years and my experience is quite different. Now, I listen to my body.

Turns out, my body knows what she needs. When I listen to her, it helps me stay balanced.

The other day, I was in the airport and I thought, “Hmm. One of those drinks sounds really good.”

So, I got one. You know what? It was delicious, but it wasn’t a big deal. I enjoyed most of the drink, but when I felt full I tossed it in the trash with a couple sips left in the bottom and moved on with my day.

Besides writing this article, I haven’t thought about that coffee drink since the airport. I’m too busy living my life.

Are you ready to break the cycle and find true happiness with your own body?

Download my free eBook today!

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This week I want to present you with “The French Option.” Now, if your mind goes straight to carbs and wine . . . just hear me out!

Bringing Up Bebe

In her book, “Bringing up Bebe,” American journalist, Pamela Druckerman points out the differences between French women and American women when it comes to food and body image.

She suggests that American women are going about it all wrong…that we could really learn something from the intuitive approach French women have towards their bodies.

This thought is synchronistic with my Body Knowledge System® which promotes listening to your body bringing better results within your lifestyle choices.

Yesterday I took a walk with a young, American mom. She talked about food like it was an enemy. She compared herself to other women on the walking trail.

I couldn’t help but think that Druckerman was onto something.

The American Woman on a Walk

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American women tend to have an all or nothing approach. Here are some examples I heard from my walking partner yesterday:

  • “See those women running? I could never run that fast so I just don’t even try.”
  • “If I ever did go for a run, it’d be toward some chocolate.”
  • “Oh, I can’t have a bag of chips in my house…I’d eat the whole thing”

The French Woman on a Walk

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French women listen to their bodies. They indulge cravings in moderation and incorporate physical activity into their daily lives. If my walking partner had been French, here’s what I think she might’ve said:

  • “I don’t enjoy running, but I like to walk with friends and family.”
  • “See that ice cream shop over there? Sometimes I like to stop in and enjoy a scoop”
  • “I just have a few chips whenever I want them. That way I never feel deprived and eat the whole bag.”

You on a Walk

Do you see the difference?  With hardcore diets and exercise, failure is inevitable. With failure comes negative self-image and the cycle repeats itself.

Intuition and balance make life more enjoyable and success attainable. With a fuller life and achievable goals comes true body confidence.

Are you ready to break the cycle of negativity and find true happiness in your own body?

Download my free eBook today!

Over the past few weeks, we’ve asked the question, “Why are we even talking about body confidence?”

We’re talking about it because it provides true freedom for you in all areas of your life!

And we are very excited to see that someone in the fashion world truly embracing and promoting body confidence!

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WHAT HAPPENED?

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Fashion designer Michael Kors recently included a plus-size model (meaning a model beyond size 12) in his runway show! He also made some great comments about body confidence for women of all body types.

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From the Huffington Post, Kors said:

“I don’t like it when the models all look the same,” he said at the time. “To me it’s so incredibly boring to turn them into mannequins; it’s so much more interesting if we have different ages, ethnicities, body types, heights.”

“The show was about strength and sensuality, and also about the diversity that we see here in New York that has inspired me my whole life,” he said. “There were models in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, models who are petite, tall, and curvy, models who are tomboys and others who are bombshells. My whole career, I’ve dressed a huge variety of people, because my job is to make everyone look great and feel more confident.”


How wonderful it was to see so many different body types gracefully moving down the runway.

We hope this is the beginning to giving all body types the confidence to see themselves reflected in models who represent “their” body!

Bravo Michael Kors for refusing to perpetuate the unhealthy eating disorder culture of modeling! He chose to promote the beauty of the diversity of various body types!

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NOW…..WHAT ABOUT YOU?

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My friend your unique body confidence matters.  And I want to help you.

Why not start with my 2nd edition eBook, Five Easy Steps to a Better Body Image.

You can also listen to some of my radio shows (only ½ hour each) with Debi Talbert to give you the experience of my Body Knowledge System ® with the sprinkling of Law of Attraction principles.  Download here. 

Both of these offerings share some of the information you need to get past the decades of low body confidence you’ve experienced.

It’s time to take control, take charge of becoming the confident woman our body wants us to be.

(Part One of the Spring Blog Series about the benefits of age and body image.)

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Body Confidence evolves from a positive body image, but which comes first?  From DoSomething.org, “”Body image” is the way that someone perceives their body and assumes that others perceive them the same way.

Fortunately, as we age the second part of that statement loses its influence.

As young women we were led to believe that our body image reflected the current cultural standards for beauty as addressed in the media. To the degree our body conformed to those standards, our body image rose or fell. That may have been true during our youth when fad diets, exercise programs, and hip fashions occupied most of our attention. Changing our appearance was as easy as dying our hair, changing our makeup, or buying a new outfit and was all about our image…not our body or who we were.

Older women know it takes more than a change of clothes, or a new hair cut to better one’s body image. We also acknowledge that weight comes naturally with each passing decade, and that the 22 inch waist of our teens and twenties has relaxed with the arrival of each child, and that regardless of the number on the scale, the appearance of the pounds on our frame has shifted. Sure, surgery can take care of what the effects of exercise leave untouched; but that’s a drastic solution to a naturally occurring change.

Besides, the person within is the source of the confidence, and not our external trappings.

Those external changes had nothing to do with body confidence which as an internal transformation can occur at any age.

The best part is we have total control over our body confidence. True body confidence begins within us and emerges in a vastly improved body image…at any age. Others reactions to our improved body image serve to energize our body confidence. And the positive cycle begins again, your body confidence is a renewable resource!

Of course Body Confidence matters, and the Body Knowledge System® shows you the way!

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