It’s Coach Stephanie, and I’m wondering if you remember the song “Treat Her Like A Lady” by Cornelius Ray and Sister Rose?
That song embodies the principles behind the practice of the Body Knowledge System®.
(We’ll listen to it here in a minute).
Your body deserves attention beyond the basics of food, shelter, clothing, and exercise. Your body deserves your RESPECT. and that requires your knowledge of her needs, wants, and desires. In exchange for that, your body shares her wisdom with you.
Wisdom? Doesn’t that reside in your mind?
No, not all of it.
So, how do you access that wisdom? Through your practice of the Body Knowledge System®.
Let’s Listen And Move…
Pick a number between 1 and 10 to represent a scale of your current mood: 1 being sad (pessimistic) all the way to 10 being happy (optimistic).
Watch the video below:
3) Stand up and MOVE to the music… just listen & MOVE!
4) If you feel like it, keep moving to the music.
5) Now, where are you on the mood scale? I’ll bet it increased.
Keep moving to the music, or any music, until you’ve reached a “10”.
Embrace the feeling, enjoy the feeling, and engage your body in a commitment to continue to the feeling into your future.
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It’s Coach Stephanie, and this week I’m here to tell you that Body Talk 101 (from Body Knowledge System ®) is NOT the same thing as Body Language.
If you’re interested in learning more about Body Language, you can choose from hundreds of books on Amazon that cover that topic.
But what we’re doing here is Body Talk 101, from my Body Knowledge System®.
Allow me to elaborate.
BODY TALK 101 BASICS (BKS®)
Body Talk refers to the direct exchange of information between you and your body.
Your body is your best friend, and conversational Body Talk® gives you a way of communicating with your body to bring about immediate, tangible, material, and positive CHANGE!
But first you must (re)establish the intimate contact with your body that you were born with….
So let’s cover the basics of how you do my BKS ® Body Talk exercise:
This week’s BKS ® Wisdom Within teaches us about Body Talk…
Body Talk refers to the direct exchange of information between you and your body.
Body Talk is sharing & listening to hopes & wishes with your best friend, your body.
Body Talk inspires Body Action to guarantee Body Confidence
No additional bullet today. Instead of reading about taking action, why not schedule a time that I can help you practice this Body Talk technique?
THE BKS® TALK IS MEANT TO BE EXPERIENCED
SO THIS IS WHAT WE DO NEXT
This is important because with me as your Coach, we can facilitate this conversation so that the two of you are truly clear with your intentions for both of you. It is this conversation in the moment which makes it truly profound.
The Body Talk Basics are meant to be experienced, not just read about! So click the link below to get started with your no-cost conversation with me.
How would you feel if, by loving yourself, you could give love to others?
Let me explain with a story…
THE PRINCESS AND HER KNIGHT
Once upon a time, a beautiful princess moved through her days and nights doing what all princesses do: smiling, curtsying, nodding and dancing the mechanical dance of banquets and formality.
She felt nothing but a longing for a prince, her knight in shining armor, to rescue her from her monotony.
After years and years of playing along and ignoring her own voice, the princess suddenly had an epiphany!
Rejoicing, our princess realized her lonely days were over; she would never be alone again, because she had just discovered why her prince never came. She didn’t have a good relationship with her body, so how could she have a good relationship with someone else?
BODY AND RELATIONSHIP: WHAT’S THE CONNECTION?
This February, think about what that inner voice is telling you. You may be waiting for all these changes to happen, forgetting that they all start with you.
It’s Stephanie and this week I want to speak with you about superheroes. Yep, that’s right… superheroes.
Everybody’s familiar with Superman and Batman of course, but I’m wondering if you’ve ever heard of Wonder Woman?
As you can see in the picture, Wonder Woman has a very confident posture… let’s call it “the power position”.
And you know what’s interesting about the power position?
MORE CONFIDENCE, LESS ANXIETY
Research has actually shown that assuming that position – even for just two minutes – can increase testosterone levels by 20% (which boosts confidence) while simultaneously decreasing cortisol levels by 25% (which reduces anxiety).
Isn’t it crazy that simply changing your posture can increase your body confidence and decrease your anxiety?
(Well, it’s not so crazy to me… I’ve been aware of this for many years!
MY ENCOURAGEMENT TO YOU
When you wake up tomorrow, why not assume the power position for two minutes? Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and stand confidently.
See if this practice affects your body confidence in a positive way… and if it does, let me know!
P.S. I’m launching my Body Confidence Community with Stephanie Wood for women who want to revitalize their body confidence with a sustainable system.
And as a bonus: sending out contest information so you can get involved with each other in this community. It is a good thing. It is all about community and supporting each other.
I’m sure over the years you have received some great advice or given it.
Well recently I decided to have a contest to see what great advice other Wellness Professionals might be willing to share. The contest was sent out through Self Growth a leading health and wellness site.
The contest had great responses and I want to share one with you that really spoke to me. It comes from Gigi Blackshear (gigiblackshear.com):
My best tip is that when your spirits are low, take 10 minutes and stand in front of the mirror. Look beyond your face and into your own eyes.
Most of us don’t look at ourselves long enough to see the beauty that lies within. We see imperfections and either turn away or begin to criticize ourselves.
However, if you look past the imperfections and past the bad hair day hair, if you look into your own eyes long enough you will begin to see the beauty that we were all created with. The beauty of your spirit! It is there, just look deep enough! It will smile back at you and say that You are enough! Exactly the way you are! Beautiful from the inside out!
What wonderful advice don’t you think?
It’s important to feel good about yourself and communicate with your body.
You have a closet filled with padded shoulders, peasant blouses, bell-bottoms and leisure suits.
Your clothes are stained, shredded, or shriveled.
You firmly believe that your closet has shrunken your clothes because they fit last year, last month, last decade;
You’re still 5-10-20 pounds over (or underweight)
You may have a fear of clothes shopping!
But Your Personal Shopper is here with some FREE tips on how to SHOP WITHOUT FEAR!
Tip # 1: Ignore the size on the label!
Forget what size you “think” you wear. Every manufacturer’s product uses different criteria based on marketing considerations. These ARE NOT standard measurements. Stop suffering.
Tip# 2: Enjoy playing with a personal shopper!
At your favorite dress or department store, don’t waste time at the rack, instead ask for a personal shopper. She knows the merchandise and navigates the clothes with ease and certainty, so the clothes match your body and you walk out with a dancer’s body.
Tip # 3: Trust Your Body!
After discussing what you are looking for, your personal shopper will look at your body in order to select clothes she knows will fit your shape and enhance your appearance. Each selection will fit your form, it’s up to you to note how each outfit makes you and your body feel.
How does a personal shopper help raise your self-esteem and feel good with the body shape you have?
She ignores the numbers, sizes on the labels, weight on the scale, BMI and pairs your body with her clothes for a perfect fit!
Bonus Tip #4
Your self-esteem begins on the inside and how you feel about yourself. It becomes apparent in how you present yourself on the outside. Your posture, your clothing, your expression, and your movement all reflect your internal level of self-esteem.
Let us have a conversation to see what other challenges you are having with your body image that is creating a negativity that you want to just get rid of.
The Self Esteem/Body Image Philosophy
Self-esteem is a circle emanating from the inside and then spirals either upward or downward depending on the feedback. Sometimes it’s negative self-talk, or your mother’s critical voice in your head. When you check yourself out in the mirror and your clothes fit perfectly, that self-talk becomes positive and your mother’s voice fades away or pays you a compliment.
The next time you leave your closet and venture outside of your home to work, to shop, to pick up kids, or drop off dry cleaning, note the reactions to your appearance when you wear the clothing you selected with the help of your personal shopper. Complete strangers can smile in response to the smile you are wearing because you feel so good about you!
That feedback resets your self-esteem spiral to a higher place, and that increases your happiness and automatically you are the attractive person you were born to be!
C,mon…try it out!
Again, let’s have a conversation to see what other challenges you are having with your body image that is creating a negativity that you want to just get rid of. Release your inner beauty!!
I believe we have a love/hate relationship with the number on our scale so I invite you to take my Body Image Survey and share your tips for changing your relationship with your scale.
But first here are my three tips to stop your love/hate relationship with the number on your scale.
1. When you say: “Oh My God! I cannot bear to look at the number on the scale!”
Tip: Don’t look! Move around and dance with your body and enjoy how she (he) feels.
2. When I see the number on the scale, I make a judgment that it is not to my liking!
Tip: Acknowledge that your body may enjoy being at this specific weight but become more aware of your food portions
3. I feel my clothes are a ‘scale’ as well….so does that make me less of a person with what I am in the world?
Tip: Your body is your best friend and having a relationship with her (him) will bring you closer to how you want to present yourself in the world in the clothes you feel most comfortable in.
Bonus Tip: Look in the mirror and notice how you feel in that outfit. Your body is your best friend and having a relationship with her will bring you closer to acknowledging how she looks in the mirror and how you feel…versus fixating on ‘the number’
If you have a 4th tip, I’d love to hear it and in return I’llgive you a strategic healthier you consultation for free!
But you can take control today and I can help you get there!
The way you see yourself is not merely an issue of physicality. It involves the total you: Body, Mind, and Spirit. The numbers on the scale are objective. They provide standards of measurement. So, why do we let ourselves feel so awful over a number?
Free yourself from what is holding you back from being happy with YOU!
I got a beautiful dog a few months ago. His name is Copper and he’s pure bred Akita. He’s a wonderful companion and I’m so glad that we decided to get him. Copper’s got a routine. In the morning, he wants his food . . . and he wants it first thing. And guess what? He gets his food, every single morning. His body knows what he needs and I make sure that he gets it.
However – I’ve found that women don’t treat themselves as well as they take care of their animals’ needs and desires.
I mean, think about it . . . how many times have you missed your own breakfast? Animals have daily routines. They know what their bodies need, and they act accordingly. Somewhere along the way, we’ve stopped paying attention to our own bodies. For example:
How many times have you been sitting at your desk, working away, while your body screams: “Take a break! Walk around! Use the restroom! Get a snack!”
Again, our bodies know what we need. But we’ve taught ourselves to ignore our bodies and thereby, create unhealthy routines.
My dog – Copper – knows what he needs. But he needs me, his owner, to help him implement. He can’t the open door to let himself out and he can’t drive to the store to get more food when we run out. He needs me for that.
In the same way, you need someone who will help you learn how to listen to your body once again . . . and not just listen, but ACT on what you’re hearing. You need a partnership with a coach.
That’s where I come in! For 20 years, I’ve helped women learn to listen to their bodies…to give them what they need… oh, and lose weight in the process (if appropriate).
If you’re interested in partnering with me, send me an email today. We’ll schedule a free 20 minute consultation and go from there!
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