When you apply the Body Knowledge System®, you and your body will host a very successful event with confidence, because you are doing it your way! When you obligated yourself to provide the celebration, you owe it to yourself to celebrate with your guests. When you have a great time, a glorious time; your guests will share in your spirit, especially the affection everyone has for the HONORED GUEST.
- Become the generous hostess who provides all your guests people with all of the food, frolic and fun but please yourself and your body first—
- Work WITH your body when making decisions as to the Who-What-Where-When-How of the event. What makes her feel good, makes you feel good, too. Fun for you, means fun for your guests!
- You are NOT responsible for anyone’s expectations, only your actions
No Early Bird Specials, Chez Stephanie!
I truly enjoy entertaining guests in my home. Rhythm (my body) and I take great delight giving dinner parties, because we schedule “Me Time” to take care of ourselves first. After spending the morning giving to myself first, by the time the first guest arrives, Rhythm and I welcome them into our home in eager anticipation of giving to others.
PS: Why stop the celebration when the door closes behind the last guest?
Dance Your Practice and Practice Your Dance to keep the spirit going, and the spirits flowing.
If you would like to have a conversation with me, please contact me, or if you would like to be in a free group tele-class, learn more here.
Tags: Body Relationship, Dancing, Life Balance, Mind Body Connection
FACT: Events occurring in June contain four of the top ten anxiety inducing situations (marriage, family changes, debt and travel). When you’re stressed, your body has one of these three reactions:
Regardless of your specific response to stress inducers, your body’s reaction is always an extra dose of cortisol which slooooooowwwwwssssss your metabolism almost to a stop.
The result? FAT!
Celery or Chocolate Éclairs: regardless of what you eat, when you are stressed, you will get the most “bang” possible from every bite.
How ironic that when you want to look your best for an upcoming event, your body betrays you.
No! NOT TRUE! It is YOU who betrays your BODY!
The Body Knowledge System® is the Stress Solution for Event Anxiety.
1) Body talk keeps it real.
2) Comfortable clothes create confidence, enhance enjoyment, and reduce stress!
3) Make each event easy on yourself…you are a guest, not the main attraction.
Dahlia felt her stomach tighten as soon as she saw the return address embossed on the creamy linen envelope containing an invitation to her niece’s elaborate June wedding in Beverly Hills, CA. Aware of the upcoming event for months, she had dreaded this moment due to the family’s expectations. Her hand shook as she stared at the RSVP card. Taking a deep breath, she reached for her copy of the Body Knowledge System®. Flipping it open to page 288, she read the introduction to the “Events & You” chapter. Her heartbeat slowed as she continued reading the reassuring words and the notations she had made in the margins. By page 308, she felt her smile return as she reviewed her notes addressing this event. Those notes were a product of her rediscovery of a real relationship with her body and the deep friendship that had been developing since she began to practice the Body Knowledge System® with her coach, Stephanie Wood, PPC.
Remember: Whether it’s a family event, or a networking opportunity, or a party with total strangers, or people you really don’t want to be with, BKS has a hot flash for you: JUST SAY NO, THANK YOU! And feel your anxiety slip away…taking the cortisol with it.
As an alternative, send a gift, and spend the day at the beach, the movies, or with a good book.
If you would like to have a conversation with me, please contact me, or if you would like to be in a free group tele-class, learn more here.
Tags: Body Image, Body Relationship, Eating Healthy, Reducing Stress
Myth-stakes for May
MYTH: “April Showers Bring May Flowers” is a commonly accepted “myth” that creates false expectations for both months. According to the national weather service, measurable rain fall has less to do with the calendar and everything to do with climatic conditions…which vary from year to year and place to place. For instance, in Hawaii other tropical climates, every month produces ageless blossoms.
FACT: Regardless of when or where flowers appear, we appreciate their fragrance, color, and the promise of eternal youth.
“You need a lift,” said the sales person as I was shopping for a new dress for my 55th birthday the last day in April.
After trying on several selections, I found the right one. Smiling, I emerged from the dressing room and asked for her feedback of my selection. Watching her face closely for a reaction, her expression was of stunned surprise, not smiling-not frowning, simply staring straight ahead.
“You need a lift,” she hissed, as she pointed a well-manicured index finger at my breasts.
Huh?” I responded.
“If you intend to wear that dress out in public, you need a better bra…”
‘Better’ as in ‘perky’, as in ‘uplift’, as in ‘younger’—BG, or Before Gravity.
Five years ago, B BKS, or Before Body Knowledge System®, her remarks would have reduced me to tears.
Now? No way! Today, it’s MY WAY!
BKS® identified my comfort level and provided me with the confidence to understand where she was coming from without any need or desire to react to her issues.
For a woman who resists the effects of each passing day on her appearance, this salesperson’s May flowers may never bloom.
And what a tragedy that would be…
Because if she were aware of the support her body gives her every single day, she might accept, even welcome, the comfort her body wants to provide.
Body Knowledge System® supports YOU, your way.
Her remarks are her issue, not mine—
Her perception indicates her estrangement from her body, and the support it’s there to provide, if only she’d open herself to the BKS® option.
Learn more about the origins, the seeds of your judgments, when it applies to others…then tune in to your personal Body Knowledge and smell the flowers…
Unlike May flowers that are dependent upon the soil, sunshine, and rain,
the flower that is you is never dependent upon the weather or the environment, or
someone else’s opinion of your appearance.
Your outcome stems (pardon the pun) from your input: body, mind, spirit!
I would love to hear your comments.
To your health and happiness,
Tags: Body Image, Body Relationship, Mind Body Connection, Self Esteem
Re-invent yourself by re-connecting to your body.
This month marks more than turning a page on the calendar. October signifies a shift in the seasons, too. In the Fall…
- The leaves change color
- TV shows change time slots
- The students change grades, and sometimes schools.
And you change into warmer, and sometimes larger, clothes.
Mother Nature controls the firs point, network executives control the second, and teachers control the third.
You control your clothing choices. Regardless of the season, often you achieve your body’s comfort zone with your clothing choices.
For the sun worshippers: With your last swim, you put away your bathing suit. You replace last summer’s cover-up with cable sweaters, baggy sweats, and swirling skirts. You smile in relief with the knowledge your days of exposing yourself to the scrutiny of the others on the beach or at the pool are over…for now.
For the sun avoiders: You relax in the knowledge there will be no more invitations to pool parties to regret, no more hiding in your home or office until it is “safe” to transition to another environment, no more squinting, sneezing from allergies, and no more sweating.
Fall is an ideal transition between the two extremes of summer’s and winter’s uncontrollable temperatures as it eases you from thin, light weight to thick, heavy weight clothing. Prior to covering her up, take advantage of this shift in seasons to get to know your body…before she goes into hiding on her way to hibernation for the winter.
Fall is the time to declare a truce with your body.
We practice this in the Body Knowledge System®
Here are some reminders but please feel free to add more by contacting me.
- STOP covering her up i.e. Allow her to breathe with pride
- STOP confronting her in the mirror i.e. As you see her let her know how much you love her
- STOP corrupting her with excess i.e. Practice thinking of her needs first
- STOP condemning her with every thought and word i.e. Remember she hears you, be careful
Re-invent yourself and reacquaint yourself with your body, your Buddy. Your body is there to help you, not hinder you. Your body works very well WITH you, FOR you, and always in your best interest. Getting to know her comes with body knowledge. Familiarize yourself with her as she renews her relationship with you. Teamwork, partnership, and support between you and your body accomplish miracles.
A new moon, a new month, a new season leads to a new you. Go with the flow of the calendar and change yourself with the season.
Re-invent yourself and reacquaint yourself with your body, your Buddy. Your body is there to help you, not hinder you.
Before September’s shift from summer to fall, we enjoyed that last burst of heat and sunshine present in Indian summer, the last kiss of the sun prior to the rains and snows of the upcoming seasons. Regardless of where you live, your climate, your urban or rural environment, when summertime fades into fall, the heat recedes into the past season.
Summertime heat affects you and your body in many ways. For some of you the warmth is welcome as you peel off layers of clothing to welcome the weather. Some of you peel off extra pounds from the winter hibernation, too. Others fill their days with good intentions to fit into last year’s bathing suit, then eventually give up and buy the next larger size when August fades into September. Labor Day signifies the swimming season is coming to a close, so all those good intentions fade with the colors of the leaves and you’ll lose those pounds, get in shape for next year’s swim season.
Part of your procrastination is a result of the warmer weather’s effect on your motivation. There’s a reason tropical climates are more relaxed than seasonal ones. As the sunshine warms us naturally, it also mellows us to not take ourselves so seriously. Vitamin D3 comes from the sun and is known to affect our physical and psychological well- being. In northern climates, physicians recommend supplementing our diet with D3 during the other seasons.
Increased temperatures create excessive perspiration. We need to drink more water to maintain our physical and mental health. Dehydration is not only depressing, but also dangerous to our well-being. Since your body is mostly fluid, when you lose too much you lose vital minerals as well and it weakens every aspect of you. Your immune system becomes unable to fight off infections without the minerals you’ve lost in your increased perspiration.
Increased humidity in the summer can also take a lot out of us—not just moisture. As the water content of the air increases, so does the swelling of your extremities: feet, ankles, and hands, fingers. Perhaps the number on your scale remains within 5 pounds of your desired weight, but your clothing seems to shrink as it covers moist, sticky skin. Increased humidity brings your sunny spirit into the shadows, as if you retreat in order to return to your comfort level.
Skin damage from the sun’s rays age us prematurely and is a known source for cancers. Even though the sensation of warmth on our skin elevates our spirit as it colors our skin, too much of any good thing can be toxic. Whether sun worshipping is a part of your daily summertime routine or available only over the weekend during breaks from your office work, it is one of the pleasures available to us during that cheerful season. Vacations, road trips, beach picnics, long weekend holidays, family reunions are all part of that season of expansion, growth, and relaxation for some of us.
Specifically, like flowers some of us open to welcome the rays of the sun on our skin. Others detest the results of summertime heat on the way we look, the way we feel, and the way we move. Some of you bounce from bed, climb into your bathing suit or sundress, slather yourself in sunscreen, and then skip outside with the early rays of the day. Others pull down the blinds, turn down the a/c, and reach for a cold drink to wait for the relief sunset brings.
Summertime heat and all that sunshine can energize you if you respond well to it, or it can drain and depress you by restricting you to the darkness of indoors. The seasons change and regardless of how you feel about summer, you resist change because you are a human being.
Change is the only constant; and seasonal change is as radical as the climate you live and work in. For those in the tropics the change is hardly noticeable, for those in more temperate climates, the transitions between seasons can be subtle or radical depending on the current weather patterns.
Re-invent yourself and reacquaint yourself with your body, your Buddy. Your body is there to help you, not hinder you.
Your body works very well WITH you, FOR you, and always in your best interest. Getting to know her comes with body knowledge. Familiarize yourself with her as she renews her relationship with you. Teamwork, partnership, and support between you and your body accomplish miracles.
A new moon, a new month, a new season leads to a new you.
Go with the flow of the calendar and change yourself with the season.
Tags: Body Image, Body Relationship, Eating Healthy, Mind Body Connection
Are things out of sync? Its time to know your Body Knowledge Style ©
When exercising, are you:
Chances are you have tried programs in each of the four Body Knowledge Styles without knowing which style you are.
As soon as you know your style, you can design your own program.
- You are Analytical if researching types of movement is your preference.
- You are Organized if moving at a certain time everyday is where you’re most comfortable.
- You are Spontaneous if you like singing in the rain at any time.
- And you are Inspirational if moving to music is important to you.
So based on those definitions, tell me what style you think you are.
Tags: Body Knowledge Articles, Body Relationship, Mind Body Connection, movement
Ok, you know all the benefits of moving your body regularly with fun and enjoyment…and you still are not putting exercise into your lifestyle.
So let’s experiment with moving your body with a new perception.
It’s about forming that relationship with your body…give him/her a name…just so that you see him/her as a separate identity. In this way you acknowledge and cater to her/his needs.
For example, if I came over your house as a guest for one week…and specifically told you I needed support to move my body and take her out for a walk and do some weight lifting daily…wouldn’t you make sure I moved forward with that intention? Of course you would and without any hesitation!
So this is the same formula you can use with your body. See her as a separate identity and give her exactly what she deserves!
Tags: Body Relationship, Mind Body Connection, movement
The most important relationship in your life is the one you were born with: you and your body. At birth you were one with your body.
Not so much.
So as an infant when you were hungry, tired, cold, wet, gassy or grumpy you expressed yourself immediately to alert your caregivers to pay attention and “fix it”, make it better immediately! Sometimes your body’s advocacy brought immediate and appropriate responses to fulfill your need, relieve your discomfort, and make you feel better. Other times your body’s alerts brought little or no response from your caregivers. Regardless of the response, your body’s actions always expressed your comfort level…your relationship was pure, direct and truthful. You and your body were one, a unit always acting in your best interest for mutual benefit.
As you matured, your body’s communications to you were censored by your caregivers. Part of being “socialized” meant ignoring your body’s needs in favor of what was “expected” of you and your behavior. As the process progressed, your separation from your body increased as you learned to deny her input, ignore her physical sensations, and her “gut” feelings. Without being aware of the immediate honest feedback from your body, your estrangement widened until your best friend became your worst enemy.
At first you focused on what you considered imperfections you saw in the mirror, and then you covered them up with clothing, make-up, hair styles—or plastic surgery. Regardless of your efforts, your feelings remained the same. Your attitude, your perception toward your body increased your dissatisfaction, your disappointment, and resentment perhaps leading to hatred for parts or all of her. Your body’s response to the increasing abandonment by her best friend is to make the situation worse, by expressing exactly what disturbs you about her—only this time with exaggeration.
Do the words ‘yo-yo’ dieting have meaning?
Your body is as unique as you are. His or her personality is as individual as you are. Your life experiences helped mold you to become the person you are today. Your body also experienced the events, celebrations, relationships, challenges and opportunities that make up your history. Your body’s experience differed from yours as did his or her reaction to those experiences. Were you ever aware of the difference? If so, how did your body’s reaction affect you? Take a moment to remember a significant event in your life and then consider your physical reaction to it. Did your body support you or did he or she betray you? It doesn’t matter if the experience was “positive” or “negative” only that it affected you physically as well as emotionally or psychologically. And sometimes the physical reaction was expected because of the quality of the experience, i.e. excitement and joy at your wedding. And sometimes your body reacted in an opposite way from what you expected, i.e. nausea, headache and chills at your wedding. (So the marriage ended in divorce within the year).
The Introduction…It’s never too late to get to know your body as the personality he or she is, because it’s never too late to save the relationship that began at birth. An awareness of your connection, a willingness to risk befriending the physical self you perhaps have ignored, abused, or simply dismissed since your youth. No need to apologize for your absence, since your body has been, is, and will always be your best friend and BFFs (Best Friends Forever) accept each other for who they are with understanding, not judgment or criticism.
Become aware of your body for an hour, a day, a week. After you are comfortable with your body, that means acceptance without judgment or criticism for your body’s shape, condition, or current health, introduce yourself.
Welcome your body back into your life on a minute-to-minute, hour-to-hour, every-day basis. Listen for your body’s input into your choices, decisions, and timing. Note what happens when you return to trusting your “gut” rather than the “chatter” from your ego.
When you heed the physical input from your body, what happens?
When you ignore the message, what happens?
When your ego trumps your gut, what happens?
“Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You…” (Rogers & Hammerstein, The King and I)
Awareness is always the first step to ending the estrangement with your body. An introduction requires a name. And like most names, it can change as your relationship changes, becomes deeper, more trusting, more reliable, more expressive. Communication continues through conversation. Part of the conversation is the dance when the magic of motion brings it all together.
This is the core concept of the Body Knowledge System®, my successful sustainable solution to every body’s life goals, desires, and achievements. I developed this over two decades of health and wellness practice and training. My clients revealed to me my own secret: ending the estrangement with your body, as I had. Now it’s your turn to end your estrangement with your body and get what you want in life: healthy body, healthy mind, and healthy spirit in order to enjoy love and life to the fullest.
Tags: Body Relationship, Eating Healthy, Estrangement, Fit Relationships, Mind Body Connection
I get a lot of questions on “What is Cortisol and Why is it Making Me Fat?”
Well, cortisol is a hormone and when stressed these levels rise. Cortisol will increase blood sugar levels, blood pressure, and suppresses the immune system, which is part of the body’s fight-or-flight response. It has two effects on weight. At first it suppresses the appetite in order to do battle ‘fight or flight’, but then afterwards the cortisol will increase your appetite and store fat trying to get your body back into what it thinks is balance. It is thinking you should have used up the extra carbohydrates and fat while ‘fleeing’. It can also slow down your metabolism.
So you can be doing everything right as far as eating and exercise and still not be loosing weight do to stress and cortisol.
Here are some things to consider …
When your body is holding emotional and physical stress….your body is in defense so it produces again a hormone called cortisol. This will not harm you and what it will do is make your body hold onto unnecessary weight and make you feel ‘heavy.’
Now, with practice you can help yourself. You have to move with your body and acknowledge what she/he is feeling. Move your body. In this way the feeling will be less intense, and therefore move out of your body (thereby feeling lighter)…and when you feel lighter you make better choices in all areas of your life.
Cultivating optimum health is a way to support the intelligence of the body. When your body and emotions function optimally, you are better equipped to turn around the body’s stress drug—cortisol—converting it rather than storing it. Maintaining a state of mental and emotional well being boosts your immune system. When your immune system isn’t working properly, your body holds on to cortisol, increasing the tendency to store fat. The body thinks she needs to fill herself up to respond to stress. If you keep developing internal health, other aspects of health are likely to follow.
Make sure you are doing the right things to keep you healthy and as stress-free as possible.
Let me know if you found this post helpful.
Tags: Body Image, Body Relationship, weight loss
“Ooooo!” Frances, my client, exclaimed while practicing the Body Knowledge System® Dance as she released the anger she felt for her ex-husband during the final stages of their divorce. When I asked her how that compared to the chronic headaches and abdominal distress she had suffered over the past year, she giggled. “Those were ‘ouches’, this is release.”
In this case, “dance” is defined as motion. We believe the motion expressed in physical action reflects the emotions inspiring it. If those emotions are joyful, the dance reflects their happiness. If, on the other hand, the emotional energy behind the movement is less than positive—the physical exertion allows release of that negativity, which in turn releases the physical pain that resulted from it.
Traditional and alternative health and wellness experts seek drug free methods to cope with their patients’ chronic pain from injuries, illness, or their imagination. Involving breathing, heat/cold therapies, drugs, aromas, massage, pain management specialists run down their menu of treatments depending upon their focus on what works for them and their patients. As medicine became more specialized on individual body parts in the last century, practitioners lost sight of the whole person. The previous narrow approach still applies to a broken bone, but only applies to back pain if the patient’s back is broken. With the dawn of the new millennium, medicine expanded their perspective to a holistic approach to treatment of the individual.
When treating pain, every expert considers the source. Pain is our body’s early warning system that something is wrong. The challenge is to locate the problem. Often the source has no physical origins, and even when it does, once the physical problem is “cured”, the pain can continue. When developing the Body Knowledge System® I became aware of the importance of constant communication with your body to interrupt and stop the cycle of pain associated with personal challenges—whether they are physical, emotional, or spiritual.
When my clients, and practitioners, seek trustworthy guidance for any life choice, the first place they look is to their bodies. They begin the conversation with movement in their Body Knowledge Dance. This movement is as individual as the partnership performing it. My client and her body have developed their movements over the course of renewing the intimate relationship they enjoyed at birth. Through ending the estrangement with their bodies, my clients can go directly to the source of their pain when performing the Body Knowledge Dance.
Your key to success is through the link of your visualized intention with the movement in your dance. “The BKS® is harmony. It brings body, mind and spirit together.” (Page 12, Body Knowledge System®, An Awesome Intelligence, 2010)
People in harmony with their bodies seldom experience pain in the physical sense. On the rare occasion they do, their open communication with their bodies allows them to process their pain and release it through movement. After practicing the Body Knowledge System® Dance, body-mind-spirit balance is restored and the BKS® dancer glides gracefully through life—their life, their way.
This Dance of Motion is great to do to release any physical or emotional pain you are experiencing. This unique method is easy to learn and fun No need to keep suffering.
Tags: Body Image, Body Relationship, Dancing