This week I’m continuing my “Natural Beauty Series” where we’ll compare two different approaches to the way we care for our bodies, The Conventional approach, which is driven by external influences, and the Natural approach, which is driven by your internal self.
The Conventional Approach: The conventional approach says we must make alterations to our true selves. This is where cultural influences become a big part of how we see ourselves physically. They suggest we should look a certain way. If we don’t we should alter or remove something on our physical bodies to look more like what is considered acceptable beauty. People all over the world spend billions of dollars a year on makeup and plastic surgery because of these cultural influences.
The Natural Approach: Alternatively, the natural approach teaches us to celebrate our true self. It suggests we make alterations to our inner selves and leave the outer self alone. The natural approach encourages us to appreciate our natural beauty versus trying so hard to meet the image of ‘perfection’ that is forced upon us through a myriad of social and cultural influences.
PRO-AGING Vs. ANTI-AGING
Pro-Aging is quite simply the opposite of Anti-Aging. Rather than covering up or altering grey hair, wrinkles, etc. Pro-Aging is all about embracing the way that you age in a natural way and celebrating your body’s expression of yourself!
I admit that every 4 weeks I go to my beautician to get my hair colored versus keeping it grey.
Is that conventional or is it natural?
It is a choice.
I am not saying one way is better than the other. My goal is to raise your awareness that beauty can be real and natural. I want to help you understand you can choose to ignore the external pressures to be a perfect physical self.
And here is the catch: For me, maintaining a red head with blond highlights makes me feel beautiful. And I use natural products.
My point is this. It’s YOUR call to go pro-aging or anti-aging and you don’t need to choose one or the other. There is no reason you can’t do both. You simply make choices that make you feel beautiful.
Let’s be honest, everywhere we turn, we see messages about how we need to look and how we need to age. My question to you today is this:
Do you want to fight against your body as she ages, or do you want to embrace her natural expression of herself?
Everything you hear, read and see in the media will tell you to fight your body’s natural aging process. They try to sell you creams, surgeries, and dyes. And if that’s what you want to do – go ahead! There is nothing wrong with that approach.
But you may find a lot of freedom in embracing your body’s natural expression of aging. You might find freedom in no longer fighting what your body wants to do. And really this is all about you being you. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin. Learning to look in the mirror and going out into the world feeling confident and comfortable.
Now, this isn’t to say you can’t take advice from external sources. But the natural approach to beauty may free you from comparing yourself to those sources.
I believe that self-acceptance, in a more natural way, could be an option for you!
BODY KNOWLEDGE SYSTEM WISDOM
One day, I realized a few things:
I only care about “Anti-Aging” because the media was telling me to.
Aging has its place within our lifetimes. I don’t want to look like I’m 16… or 35… I shouldn’t and I can’t!
I was ready to embrace my age and my body’s expression of that age.
How about you? Are you ready to do the same?
My message for you today is this: listen to what your body is trying to tell you about aging. For me, it was incredibly freeing to embrace my body’s expression of my age. Maybe it will be for you too!
The Conventional approach to beauty is reliant on alterations. The Natural approach is all about celebrating your true self.
We will be looking at Natural Beauty in other areas of your life over the coming weeks. In the meantime, are you someone who feels trapped by external standards of beauty? Do you feel pressured to fight against your body’s natural aging process? Are you ready to experience the freedom of the natural approach to beauty, stay within the conventional mindset or both?
It’s always your call.
I’m looking forward to reading your thoughts and comments below.
It’s Coach Stephanie, and I’m wondering if you remember the song “Treat Her Like A Lady” by Cornelius Ray and Sister Rose?
That song embodies the principles behind the practice of the Body Knowledge System®.
(We’ll listen to it here in a minute).
Your body deserves attention beyond the basics of food, shelter, clothing, and exercise. Your body deserves your RESPECT. and that requires your knowledge of her needs, wants, and desires. In exchange for that, your body shares her wisdom with you.
Wisdom? Doesn’t that reside in your mind?
No, not all of it.
So, how do you access that wisdom? Through your practice of the Body Knowledge System®.
Let’s Listen And Move…
Pick a number between 1 and 10 to represent a scale of your current mood: 1 being sad (pessimistic) all the way to 10 being happy (optimistic).
Watch the video below:
3) Stand up and MOVE to the music… just listen & MOVE!
4) If you feel like it, keep moving to the music.
5) Now, where are you on the mood scale? I’ll bet it increased.
Keep moving to the music, or any music, until you’ve reached a “10”.
Embrace the feeling, enjoy the feeling, and engage your body in a commitment to continue to the feeling into your future.
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It’s Coach Stephanie, and this week I’m here to tell you that Body Talk 101 (from Body Knowledge System ®) is NOT the same thing as Body Language.
If you’re interested in learning more about Body Language, you can choose from hundreds of books on Amazon that cover that topic.
But what we’re doing here is Body Talk 101, from my Body Knowledge System®.
Allow me to elaborate.
BODY TALK 101 BASICS (BKS®)
Body Talk refers to the direct exchange of information between you and your body.
Your body is your best friend, and conversational Body Talk® gives you a way of communicating with your body to bring about immediate, tangible, material, and positive CHANGE!
But first you must (re)establish the intimate contact with your body that you were born with….
So let’s cover the basics of how you do my BKS ® Body Talk exercise:
This week’s BKS ® Wisdom Within teaches us about Body Talk…
Body Talk refers to the direct exchange of information between you and your body.
Body Talk is sharing & listening to hopes & wishes with your best friend, your body.
Body Talk inspires Body Action to guarantee Body Confidence
No additional bullet today. Instead of reading about taking action, why not schedule a time that I can help you practice this Body Talk technique?
THE BKS® TALK IS MEANT TO BE EXPERIENCED
SO THIS IS WHAT WE DO NEXT
This is important because with me as your Coach, we can facilitate this conversation so that the two of you are truly clear with your intentions for both of you. It is this conversation in the moment which makes it truly profound.
The Body Talk Basics are meant to be experienced, not just read about! So click the link below to get started with your no-cost conversation with me.
How would you feel if, by loving yourself, you could give love to others?
Let me explain with a story…
THE PRINCESS AND HER KNIGHT
Once upon a time, a beautiful princess moved through her days and nights doing what all princesses do: smiling, curtsying, nodding and dancing the mechanical dance of banquets and formality.
She felt nothing but a longing for a prince, her knight in shining armor, to rescue her from her monotony.
After years and years of playing along and ignoring her own voice, the princess suddenly had an epiphany!
Rejoicing, our princess realized her lonely days were over; she would never be alone again, because she had just discovered why her prince never came. She didn’t have a good relationship with her body, so how could she have a good relationship with someone else?
BODY AND RELATIONSHIP: WHAT’S THE CONNECTION?
This February, think about what that inner voice is telling you. You may be waiting for all these changes to happen, forgetting that they all start with you.
It’s Stephanie and this week I want to speak with you about superheroes. Yep, that’s right… superheroes.
Everybody’s familiar with Superman and Batman of course, but I’m wondering if you’ve ever heard of Wonder Woman?
As you can see in the picture, Wonder Woman has a very confident posture… let’s call it “the power position”.
And you know what’s interesting about the power position?
MORE CONFIDENCE, LESS ANXIETY
Research has actually shown that assuming that position – even for just two minutes – can increase testosterone levels by 20% (which boosts confidence) while simultaneously decreasing cortisol levels by 25% (which reduces anxiety).
Isn’t it crazy that simply changing your posture can increase your body confidence and decrease your anxiety?
(Well, it’s not so crazy to me… I’ve been aware of this for many years!
MY ENCOURAGEMENT TO YOU
When you wake up tomorrow, why not assume the power position for two minutes? Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and stand confidently.
See if this practice affects your body confidence in a positive way… and if it does, let me know!
P.S. I’m launching my Body Confidence Community with Stephanie Wood for women who want to revitalize their body confidence with a sustainable system.
And as a bonus: sending out contest information so you can get involved with each other in this community. It is a good thing. It is all about community and supporting each other.
I’m sure over the years you have received some great advice or given it.
Well recently I decided to have a contest to see what great advice other Wellness Professionals might be willing to share. The contest was sent out through Self Growth a leading health and wellness site.
The contest had great responses and I want to share one with you that really spoke to me. It comes from Gigi Blackshear (gigiblackshear.com):
My best tip is that when your spirits are low, take 10 minutes and stand in front of the mirror. Look beyond your face and into your own eyes.
Most of us don’t look at ourselves long enough to see the beauty that lies within. We see imperfections and either turn away or begin to criticize ourselves.
However, if you look past the imperfections and past the bad hair day hair, if you look into your own eyes long enough you will begin to see the beauty that we were all created with. The beauty of your spirit! It is there, just look deep enough! It will smile back at you and say that You are enough! Exactly the way you are! Beautiful from the inside out!
What wonderful advice don’t you think?
It’s important to feel good about yourself and communicate with your body.
You have a closet filled with padded shoulders, peasant blouses, bell-bottoms and leisure suits.
Your clothes are stained, shredded, or shriveled.
You firmly believe that your closet has shrunken your clothes because they fit last year, last month, last decade;
You’re still 5-10-20 pounds over (or underweight)
You may have a fear of clothes shopping!
But Your Personal Shopper is here with some FREE tips on how to SHOP WITHOUT FEAR!
Tip # 1: Ignore the size on the label!
Forget what size you “think” you wear. Every manufacturer’s product uses different criteria based on marketing considerations. These ARE NOT standard measurements. Stop suffering.
Tip# 2: Enjoy playing with a personal shopper!
At your favorite dress or department store, don’t waste time at the rack, instead ask for a personal shopper. She knows the merchandise and navigates the clothes with ease and certainty, so the clothes match your body and you walk out with a dancer’s body.
Tip # 3: Trust Your Body!
After discussing what you are looking for, your personal shopper will look at your body in order to select clothes she knows will fit your shape and enhance your appearance. Each selection will fit your form, it’s up to you to note how each outfit makes you and your body feel.
How does a personal shopper help raise your self-esteem and feel good with the body shape you have?
She ignores the numbers, sizes on the labels, weight on the scale, BMI and pairs your body with her clothes for a perfect fit!
Bonus Tip #4
Your self-esteem begins on the inside and how you feel about yourself. It becomes apparent in how you present yourself on the outside. Your posture, your clothing, your expression, and your movement all reflect your internal level of self-esteem.
Let us have a conversation to see what other challenges you are having with your body image that is creating a negativity that you want to just get rid of.
The Self Esteem/Body Image Philosophy
Self-esteem is a circle emanating from the inside and then spirals either upward or downward depending on the feedback. Sometimes it’s negative self-talk, or your mother’s critical voice in your head. When you check yourself out in the mirror and your clothes fit perfectly, that self-talk becomes positive and your mother’s voice fades away or pays you a compliment.
The next time you leave your closet and venture outside of your home to work, to shop, to pick up kids, or drop off dry cleaning, note the reactions to your appearance when you wear the clothing you selected with the help of your personal shopper. Complete strangers can smile in response to the smile you are wearing because you feel so good about you!
That feedback resets your self-esteem spiral to a higher place, and that increases your happiness and automatically you are the attractive person you were born to be!
C,mon…try it out!
Again, let’s have a conversation to see what other challenges you are having with your body image that is creating a negativity that you want to just get rid of. Release your inner beauty!!
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